People are Interesting

People truly are interesting. Every story unique and special. I share these posts to tell you about the people I am lucky enough to meet. Many of these people would be judged as outcasts. To me they are simple wonderful stories of what I get to do as a job every day. To me it is never work. They are an honor to get to know. Here is one such story.

I knocked on the front door in a nice neighborhood of a senior I was supposed to evaluate. I could hear laughter of a child, but no one was answering. I called the family and they directed me to go to the side door, a butler’s entrance of sorts. I could not hear the laughter here, but I called out and knocked. The door opened on its own.

I called out and the owner of the home came out with flour on her face. upon entering I realized what I thought was a child’s laughter was in fact the wife of the patient I was supposed to see. They were a prominent family in the region I worked. The house was a mansion on the outside. It was somewhat frozen in time on the inside. I couldn’t see the patient I was supposed to see at first. The wife started to give me a bit of a tour of her home. “We set him up in here.” She says. “I need your help to get him up, will you?” “Of course” I reply.

He is sitting in the living room. His care was simple and I was able to set up additional services for them as well. As I left the back entrance, which she informed me was their main entrance was piled high with unopen delivery boxes. Some of them so old they were fading in the sun. I couldn’t help but ask when was the last time her children had been to visit. She looked at mean and the boxes and said, “We don’t let them come here anymore. We meet at a restaurant nearby.”

I asked if she would allow me to help. I promised not to judge. She accepted my help with a subtle smile and then gave me hug as the tears flowed. I told her, I would like to think if I ever needed this type of help, someone would be there for me. Who around you could use your non-judgmental help and support? Connect them CayCare. We won’t judge. #gethelp #loveeveryone

Let’s Make Our Own Luck in Long Term Care

Let’s Make Our Own Luck

Have you ever wondered what you would do if you woke up and your world was turned upside down by a loved one needing care? No, you didn’t because that would be a nightmare, right? I live in a world where people never anticipate needing care and yet they need it every single day. They think it is the end of living. I am here to guide you to the truth.

When I was a young adult I had the privilege of being an actor. I don’t have many movies behind my belt but the few I do have lingered. My children asked to see one of them for the first time today. It got me to thinking about life, memories and what it all means. Everyone wants to make their own destiny, don’t they? No one wants their future job or spouse picked by someone else. We don’t want to be told where to live or to what we enjoy.

Yet every single day I see people who have procrastinated the choice that will make or break their family. Why do we do it? Why do we leave these burdens for others to pick up? Like a hoarder who gets overwhelmed by their piles of stuff, we are left frozen, debilitated.

So, let’s start this month by stop hoping the end will be as good as the beginning. Stop hoping it all turns out and wishes and unicorns will fill the final years of our lives with greatness. Let’s start making our luck. Let’s plan where we go, how we are cared for and how it will all be paid for. Let’s start this month as the month by having a real plan about how the final years start. We spend much effort on how they begin.

How do you make your luck concerning the “after retirement stage” of your life?

  • Investments – See a financial advisor and get your money planned for fun and care.
  • Long-Term Care -Care Plan – Register for an upcoming Long-Term Care – Care Plan Creation Session
  • Attend a Pre-Planner’s Seminar – Go to our website to sign up for the next one. (If you are our of the area watch for webinars.) CayCare.com/preplanner
  • Pay for long-term care insurance to pay for care and save money
  • Get your legal documents in order – See an elder law attorney to write up your will and other legal documents.
  • Talk to your family – Do not leave them in the dark! When you were deciding what college to go to or profession to take up you went to those you trusted and discussed. Do this with your loved ones. Do NOT leave them in the dark.

Lisa Doyle is a registered nurse, educator, and geriatric care manager who has worked for over 15 years in helping seniors find long term care solutions. She takes empowerment and education to the next level and ensures her whole team does the same. A CayCare advisor can help you make your best care solution and plan today. Before Lisa worked in geriatrics she was a home health and hospice nurse and worked with traumatic brain injury and spinal cord injuries. She is the mother of 3 beautiful and active children.

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How to Help a Senior Search for Long Term Housing

How to Help a Senior Search for Long Term Care Housing

Searching for housing at any age is both fun and stressful. Add in that you are also trying to think about the care and medical support you need. The stress can cause a family to be on edge. When a senior is searching for housing for a senior, the family’s own expectations about how it will go and what the senior needs may not align with reality. Many are inaccurate in what they are searching for when it comes to housing for the senior. So, what can you do to help out and get good results? I am so glad you asked, because this is where my expertise as a nurse and care manager and placement navigator come into play with good results.

  1. Perspective – First of all your senior once was young and active and didn’t need your help. They have quirks and things they like to do that you do not. This is okay. Many family members try to place their loved one in a location or building that they themselves would choose. Or the family member picks a location where they want the individual to “get involved”. As we age our world gets smaller and our desires can change. While some people thrive in a more active community, active communities are not for everyone. Bear that in mind when considering options for your family member. May I also suggest getting a specialist such as myself involved. Referral agents are experts at helping seniors find placement because they do this every day. They can help you along this path of change and decision making.
  2. Address Concerns – Ask your senior what concerns them. It is as easy as that. Are they afraid of the strangers? Are they afraid of being alone? Are they afraid of not being able to be alone due to all of the activities?
  3. Address Fears – If your senior is grumpy about this decision to move for care needs find out the root of the problem. Many times it boils down to the fear of the unknown. Even when someone wants to change or get help they are comfortable where they currently are and so bad is better than change sometimes. When dealing with moving a senior addressing their concerns, fears and challenges around moving can eliminate the barriers. Without the barriers change is so much more acceptable.
  4. Provide Real Support – As we age decision making is just not as easy. There is a lot more to factor in and many seniors get information overload impeding the actual decision to move. As a family member support is being literally along for the ride. Ask the questions they have, write them down and then review them together later.
  5. Provide the Gentle Push – When a decision is made there is a lot that needs to happen. Help the senior with paperwork, move planning (house sell, packing, estate sale), check-in. This is a major change and even for the better they really need you.